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updated August 17, 2014

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the journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step

Counseling Assessment
Life Story Questionnaire
(free for members of THE COUNSELLING GROUP: Calgary and Victoria only)

The First Step
Please complete and return your confidential Life Story Questionnaire found below. The questions are detailed and personal. Feel free to leave blank any questions that you experience as too uncomfortable.

Please do the following:
1. Complete the Life Story Questionnaire .
2. Respond briefly to the questions (including each part), but use complete sentences as much as possible.
3. Upon receiving your Life Story, the counselor will email an immediate acknowledgement.

While uncomfortable and sometimes painful, simply completing the
Life Story Questionnaire can have a healing effect in itself and provide significant insight and self-awareness.

Are you completing this as a member of FREE COUNSELLING GROUP? (Calgary and Victoria only)
What is your first name?
Please give your email address for an acknowledgement by reply email.
City and Province or State, and Country:
What is your age and gender?
What is your marital status? Single, married, separated, or divorced? How long? Explain the reasons for separation(s) or divorce(s). What happened?
What is your race, ethnic, or cultural background? Caucasian, Chinese, East Indian, Aboriginal, Other?
What are your children's genders and ages? If they are adults, give their occupations and marital situation.
Do you live alone or with someone? How long?
What problems and concerns do you have now? What emotions have you been having and what are they about? Fear, anger, frustration, guilt, sadness, low self-worth, despair, other feelings?
How long have you been feeling this way? (for each feeling or problem)
What happened at the time you began feeling this way?
When have you felt like this in the past and what happened?
Any health problems? e.g. epilepsy, diabetes, etc.
Any counseling or hospitalized for emotional reasons? How old were you? Please give the reasons.
How many brothers and sisters do you have? Give each person's gender, age, occupation, and marital situation.
Which one are you in the line of birth? First, last, second or third, etc.How many years separate you from the others nearest you?
Who were you closest to when growing up?
Are your parents still living? What was your age at their death?
Have your experienced any other deaths of family members or friends? What was your age?
Describe your father's (and step-father's) personality and your relationship to him when you were growing up. Were you close, not so close, distant, affectionate? Give an example of something that happened that shows this and how old you were.
Talk about how your relationship with your father (or father figure) during childhood may have affected you in both positive and negative ways.
How have the negative experiences with your father figure(s), come up again in your relationships with other people up to now?
Describe your mother's (and step-mother's) personality and your relationship to her when you were growing up. Were you close, not so close, distant, affectionate? Give an example of something that happened that shows this and how old you were.
Talk about how your relationship with your mother (or mother figure) during childhood may have affected you in both positive and negative ways.
How have the negative experiences with your mother figure(s), come up again in your relationships with other people up to now?
What were your spiritual or religious beliefs before age 10 and how have your beliefs changed since then?
What was your role in the family when you were growing up? Think of a word, e.g. peacemaker, black sheep, victim, outsider, assistant parent, invisible, baby, etc.? Give an example of what happened.
Describe your parents' relationship. Were they affectionate? How did they deal with conflict? Give an example of what happened.
Was anyone in the family or extended family ever hospitalized for emotional reasons or commit suicide? Any mental retardation?
How did family members relate to each other when you were growing up? Give an example.
How were feelings of anger, sadness, fear, and guilt expressed? Give an example.
Describe a time when you were disciplined that was most painful for you. How old were you? What happened?
What personality features do you have which your parents also have?
Who was there for you when you were hurt as a child?
What messages about your worth and the worth of others, was communicated by each parent both verbally and nonverbally?
How old were you when you left home, and why did you leave?
If you had miraculous power to change your family when you were growing up and your childhood in any three ways, what would you choose?
If your family experience had been different in the ways you mentioned above, how do you imagine your life might be different today?
Do you know if your mother had any problems with your birth?
What was the first day of school like?
How many moves and school changes occurred during school years? How old were you, what grades did you move and why?
Describe your relationships with teachers.
Describe your relationships with peers.
Do you believe you achieved your best in school? Why? What grade or education level did you complete? What happened?
Did you have a group of friends during the first six grades? If not, why?
Did you have one or two very close friends as a teenager? If not,why?
Did you tend to be a follower or a leader with friends as a teenager?
How old were you when you first started go out with someone (or dated)?
Do you have a satisfactory network of friends, family, groups? Describe these briefly.
How would you describe the types of people you associate with?(What is your role with friends and acquaintances? Helper, victim, other?)
How old were you when you first went to work?
What types of jobs have you had and how many? Why did you leave each job?
What has been your role at work? Helper, invisible, responsible, victim, other? And how have you gotten along with bosses?
What was your first date like for you?
How old were you with your first sexual experience? And first intercourse?
How many sexual partners have you had over time? And what is your sexual preference or orientation? (heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual)
Describe your partners personality and your relationship. Aggressive, passive, abusive, caring, other? And describe previous meaningful relationships, their personalities, and why they ended.
Have you had any past arrests, warrants, charges, suits against you? How old were you and what were they about?
Have you ever had suicidal thoughts at any time in your life? How old were you? What happened?
What are your greatest strengths? And what skills or abilities do you currently have the most confidence in?
From your life story above, what do you think may have contributed to your present difficulties?
If you were to continue on a path of change and growth what would you hope to achieve or what would be your goals in counselling?
What has it been like completing your Life Story questionnaire?
Do you want to receive counseling by phone, by email exchange, or both? (provide Paypal payment of $89 below)
The Counselor Will Reply When Your Fee Has Been Received.



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